Confused

I am so confused about how to get what I want--which means I am confused about what I want.
On one hand, I just want to get fucked and have some wonderful vaginal sex--on the other hand, I want to meet someone I can see more than once and care about, at least as a friend.
I just stood up--more to less--this guy I met online--didn't follow through to confirm our plans--because I am uncomfortable with wanting to screw him.
On the other hand, I want to screw him.
Oy.
I keep answering guys' ads, but the percentage I talk with is small, and the percentage I agree to meet--and then meet--is tiny,
And it takes forever!!!
Frustrated.